Introduction
Flipinas
(filipino women) have a reputation for making excellent wives, and for
being very sexy and submissive, and for being eager to marry older
foreign men - sometimes much older.
And
with a reputation like that, it's no surprise that many foreign men are
interested in finding themselves a wife from the Philippines.
Especially as Filipinas are also very pleasing and attractive in
appearance, being petite, smiley, exotic and sexy-looking women.
What
you're probably wondering is whether their reputation is just a myth -
or whether it's a reality. And if it's a reality, you're probably
wondering how best to find your filipina girl, and what are the things
that can go wrong. We will we will try to answer those things for you.
The
reality is that you can find a wonderful wife in the Philippines, if
you go about it the right way. And there are many happily married
western men who can testify to the virtues of their treasured Filipina
wives.
But
there's also another reality, and that is that Filipina dating is a
real minefield. And if you're not very careful, you could get scammed
over and over again, and you could find someone who will turn your life
into a living nightmare.
Filipinas
are not all the same - just like any other group of women. And whilst
most are good honest girls, there are some who are bad, and others who
are very bad. And you'll have great difficultly differentiating the good
from the bad - especially if you're a newbie. To make matters worse,
the ones who excite you most (the sexiest, and chattiest ones) will
usually be the bad ones.
Where to look
These
days, finding a Filipina bride invariably starts online at a Filipina
dating site, or possibly at a social networking site like Facebook. It
starts with online chat, and then if all goes well, it progresses to a
meeting in person, once you've got to know each other well enough.
Filipina Dating Sites
There
are many filipina dating sites to choose from, and you will need to find out
what works for you. You'll probably need to try both paid-sites and
free-sites.
In Person
Beginning
your search in person in the Philippines isn't recommended, unless you
have good connections there. Any girls that approach you in person in
the street, or in a cafe, and ask you if you're married etc, won't be
the good ones. Good Filipinas are mostly conservative types who wouldn't
act in such a predatory way.
Organised Tours
Organised
dating tours aren't recommended either. You'll probably only come into
contact with bar-girl types. Although the tour operators will, of
course, tell you otherwise.
Pen-pals
The pen-pal route used to be popular, but in this internet and email age, it's just not worth bothering with anymore.
How to make a good impression
Obviously
you need to try to create the impression that you will be a reliable
and caring husband, a dependable friend, and an amiable companion. It's
always best to be open and honest, and to tell your girlfriend
everything that she might want to know. And to send photos, and to
describe your life as accurately as possible - your disasters as well as
your triumphs - your weaknesses as well as your strengths. Honesty is a
big turn-on, and helps to build the trust that will be needed if you
want to marry her. We would also recommend that you try the following:-
1).
Try to be a good listener, and ask her opinion on important subjects.
Filipinas come from a more male-oriented society, and will warm to you
if you appear to respect her views, and don't talk down to her.
2).
Try to show a strong interest in her family - as family ties are
usually very important to Filipinas. Try to make a good impression on
her family if the opportunity arises. And try to be understanding about
any desires that she has to help her family - it's part of their culture
- and not a scammers trait. Quite the contrary - it's the same trait
that will make her a good wife for you.
3).
Try to be interested in Filipino culture, and do a little research from
time-to-time on the Philippines. Don't brag about your wealth. And
don't be condescending about her culture, her country, or her people.
The Philippines may be a poor and corrupt country, but it's not all bad -
Filipinos rank very highly in international surveys of happiness. They
typically rank about 18th, compared to about 80th for the UK, and about
180th for the US. And they have a very strong family structure, which
is usually generous in its support for sick, elderly, or needy young
relatives.
4).
Try to look clean and tidy. Filipinas tend to take cleanliness far more
seriously than western women. And will be more impressed if you look
clean and tidy.
5). Try to treat her like a lady, and not a maid or a bar-girl, and don't percieve her as a mail-order-bride.
